Comments on: Meeting the Outlaws http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/2009/07/meeting-the-outlaws/ The Diary of a Stone Cold Gentleman... Thu, 22 Dec 2011 14:03:33 +0000 hourly 1 By: Darius Stone http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/2009/07/meeting-the-outlaws/#comment-663 Darius Stone Tue, 04 Aug 2009 18:22:24 +0000 http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/?p=182#comment-663 @Tamtam... Rule no. 1: Never assume that your folks are nice. Consider everyone an outlaw. They will even act differently for one sibling as opposed to another...Bride price is pay day and some folks don't mess about with pay day. @Val...LOL - Getting nervous are we? I'm sure XY can find a good Chief of Staff he grew up with and who knows him well. This is a job he has to do himself as a rite of passage and the truth is that regardless of how both of you plan, it is very possible that you will have absolutely no say about how things go on the table - and possibly in your case, you will never be told. The saying what you know won't hurt you rings very true. @Tamtam…

Rule no. 1: Never assume that your folks are nice. Consider everyone an outlaw. They will even act differently for one sibling as opposed to another…Bride price is pay day and some folks don’t mess about with pay day.

@Val…LOL – Getting nervous are we? I’m sure XY can find a good Chief of Staff he grew up with and who knows him well. This is a job he has to do himself as a rite of passage and the truth is that regardless of how both of you plan, it is very possible that you will have absolutely no say about how things go on the table – and possibly in your case, you will never be told. The saying what you know won’t hurt you rings very true.

]]> By: val http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/2009/07/meeting-the-outlaws/#comment-660 val Tue, 04 Aug 2009 15:49:57 +0000 http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/?p=182#comment-660 I have read...and been amused Can I hire you to come negotiate for me? :) I have read…and been amused

Can I hire you to come negotiate for me? :)

]]> By: Tamtam http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/2009/07/meeting-the-outlaws/#comment-647 Tamtam Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:00:22 +0000 http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/?p=182#comment-647 Darius, Sorry, but the men being reduced to tears during the negotiations,lol. I have never witnessed these negotiations, only heard about them. I don't think my folks would put anyone through this. Darius,

Sorry, but the men being reduced to tears during the negotiations,lol. I have never witnessed these negotiations, only heard about them. I don’t think my folks would put anyone through this.

]]> By: farmgal http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/2009/07/meeting-the-outlaws/#comment-506 farmgal Sat, 25 Jul 2009 20:02:12 +0000 http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/?p=182#comment-506 I have been to one of those negotiations (not sure what my purpose was cos I was young) and it was nasty. My aunties and uncles would have cost the bride to be a husband! Am glad am a woman! I have been to one of those negotiations (not sure what my purpose was cos I was young) and it was nasty. My aunties and uncles would have cost the bride to be a husband! Am glad am a woman!

]]> By: savvy http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/2009/07/meeting-the-outlaws/#comment-448 savvy Wed, 22 Jul 2009 10:32:33 +0000 http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/?p=182#comment-448 I remember at one time telling my parents not to expect cows from me, how naive I was . You see, it's never really up to the couple but the outlwas out to mint money from those who seem to have. Bride price negotiations are a nightmare. I remember at one time telling my parents not to expect cows from me, how naive I was . You see, it’s never really up to the couple but the outlwas out to mint money from those who seem to have.

Bride price negotiations are a nightmare.

]]> By: Darius Stone http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/2009/07/meeting-the-outlaws/#comment-439 Darius Stone Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:29:12 +0000 http://www.stonecoldhaven.com/?p=182#comment-439 @3...Facebook has its mercenaries..you best believe. The medium doesn't change how nasty the business has become. I know of folks who've plotted to finish building their home in shags based on their projected proportion of the imminent bride price, not withstanding that their only connection with you is that you share the same kin. Besides, you still won't be party to the negotiation....LOL! Or you think they'll form an FB group and share their thoughts on the wall....hehehe. Thinking of it, it must be a girl's worst nightmare kuwachwa kwa mataa coz' of mercenaries sabotaging the negotiation for her bride price. Not leaving that gate with them boys and their peeps can be traumatizing with eloping being an acceptable option...LOL @3…Facebook has its mercenaries..you best believe. The medium doesn’t change how nasty the business has become. I know of folks who’ve plotted to finish building their home in shags based on their projected proportion of the imminent bride price, not withstanding that their only connection with you is that you share the same kin.

Besides, you still won’t be party to the negotiation….LOL! Or you think they’ll form an FB group and share their thoughts on the wall….hehehe.

Thinking of it, it must be a girl’s worst nightmare kuwachwa kwa mataa coz’ of mercenaries sabotaging the negotiation for her bride price. Not leaving that gate with them boys and their peeps can be traumatizing with eloping being an acceptable option…LOL

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